We all have been there, and it feels like your whole world is collapsing right in front of you. You might begin to question if God is really for you or if he even wants the best for you. If you have never gone through a breakup, this is also for you. You might go through one in the future, but hopefully, you won’t. It’s difficult, I know. You might feel shocked, free, relieved, angry, sad, and bitter. Or you might just be in denial after what just occurred. I want you to know that the pain you’re feeling will not last forever. The pain you are feeling will do more good than harm, even if you think otherwise. The best thing you can do in this situation is to rely on God so that he can heal you. Believe me, allow God to heal you because it will be much faster than if you do it alone. So grab your ice cream and covers, and let’s get into it.
- Pray and take in all of the emotions: I know the feeling; I know that you’re just going to shrug it off or deny it. Or you might just hide your feelings and go on about your day as if you never had a relationship. Yet the best thing you can do for yourself is to feel everything, cry, scream, and cry some more. If you have to, take a few days off work and order the pizza or ice cream you want. I just want you to feel and take in your emotions while processing the fact that you are no longer in a committed relationship. I then recommended that you pray to God, even though you might be upset with him. Pray for guidance and healing, read his word, and listen to worship music. Talk to him as if he was sitting right across from you and explain how you’re feeling. Read Psalms and pay attention to what scripture points you to. Know that God hears your cry and is ready to help at a moment’s notice because he loves you.Â
- Take care of yourself: This might be the last thing you want to do. It’s hard, I get it. What I don’t recommend is neglecting your health and hygiene. Many would want to resort to alcohol to numb their emotions, some with sex. Some might just stop caring about their health and looks. They might stop cutting their hair, doing their nails, dressing well, and much more. Establishing a daily routine where you take care of yourself is very important. Wash your face, brush your teeth, style your hair, apply makeup, and work out. Another thing I forgot to mention is to eat healthy. Some of us, including myself, will want to eat out of comfort and pleasure rather than necessity. I have to admit, something about eating ice cream makes you feel better until it doesn’t.Â
- Travel: Traveling helps so much, especially if you have just experienced a long-term relationship breakup. I recommend doing so if you have the funds and time to travel. Ask the Lord where he wants to take you and book a ticket. Go to a different city, state, or country. Go explore while you heal and talk to the Lord because you might find beauty in the little things again. Go to that resort you have always dreamed of going. Breathe the fresh air, read a book, or read the Bible while the waves crash against the shore.Â
-  Connect with family/friends: It might have been a while since you spoke to your friends or family. This is a chance to do so if you know that they will not lead you toward the wrong path, like drugs and sex. Take the time to go eat dinner with your mom or dad. You can also go to the amusement park with your friends or family. Whatever you do, don’t be alone or isolate yourself on purpose. Maybe your friends or family have some insight from your past relationship that might give you some closure.Â
- Â Go to church/church events: This should be obvious, but the last thing you want to do is attend church. Your ex might be there, and the whole situation would become awkward. It stings, but you should go. You cannot detach yourself from the body of Christ because you’re part of the body of Christ. Go to church events such as young adult Bible study or life groups. Do whatever you need to get out of the house on the weekend, especially if it’s time for the Lord. Who knows, you might meet new people who are in the same boat as you.Â
- Accept that it’s over and thank the Lord: You have to accept that it’s over; you have to move on because it’s necessary. This relationship has ended, but that doesn’t mean that your life is over. The door has closed, yet another is ready to open just around the corner. Reflect on what happened and why it happened. Ask the Lord to guard you and show you the way. Beyond your point in time, there is hope and joy. Learn what you enjoyed about the relationship and what you didn’t. Write down the values you both argued about, opinions, and interests. Take into consideration everything you two did while accepting that there were good and bad times.Â
Breaking up or getting your heart broken is the worst feeling in the world. I just want you to know that there is hope, and there’s another door waiting to be opened around the corner. God allowed this door to close so you can find someone better for you, someone who will draw you closer to him. It might take you a month, two months, or a year to heal. Just know that there is hope, so let the Lord heal you. Read the Bible, pray, and worship. Romans 8:28.
